Articles When Hell Freezes Over - Ice Skate!
		When Hell Freezes over- Ice Skate page 2 4. T - THINK of all the good things We all lead valuable lives and it is important not to feel that they have been wasted. If you are struggling with the end of a job or a relationship, think of the things you learned, talent you acquired, people you met, good times you had. One job I had provided me with a chance to develop management and personnel skills, and a boyfriend introduced me to seven people who are still good friends, ten years after he and I painfully went our separate ways . When I had my riding accident, I was in charge of the University of Washington residence hall program. I was in the hospital for the entire month of September - the busiest, most hectic month of the school year. My staff jokingly accused me of having the accident on purpose! To drive their point home, they brought 100 students on a leadership retreat into my hospital to stand at my door and sing, "The Old Gray Mare, She Ain't What She Used to Be!" Thinking of the good things will help you get beyond the feeling of being a victim. Victims have no sense of power and have to wait for someone else to change things for them. You want to empower yourself. 5. E - EXPLORE your options and ENERGIZE yourself to move on By the time you reach this step you should be ready to put the adverse situation behind you and to move to a point where you know you can cope. You do it first by exploring your options. Look for the advantages in your situation. Did you get out of a relationship that was as substantial as a toilet paper raincoat? Do you have an opportunity to try a new career? To go back to school? To reassess your life? Spend more time with your family? Some of us don't make choices until we are forced to, and you may be surprised how many options you have available. You may also be surprised at the options you don't choose. Many people find that getting out of the rat race and rejoining the human race is so enjoyable that they accept a lower pay, lower stress position. A friend of mine was fired from his job when he told his boss he had tested positive for HIV, the AIDS virus. Although he knew he probably could win the job back in court, after he worked through his hurt and anger, he decided that the toll of a court battle for a somewhat physically demanding job was not worth it. He went back to college, put the management experience from his job to use and now has an advanced degree and a much more rewarding position. True, he still has the HIV virus, but that was nonnegotiable - he would have had it either way. Energizing yourself to move on is the last step, and it is a relatively easy one, assuming you have achieved all the others. This does not mean that you will find the new job, the new true love or even the ability to live with the distasteful management decision immediately. In the words of Bill Cosby, "If at first you don't succeed, you're just about like everyone else." Some things take time - they take forever if you don't start working on them! Start exploring your options and developing a positive attitude now. Don't wait until Hell freezes over to polish your ice skates! © Dr. Patt Schwab 1991 Download a printable version   Reprinting and Reposting   Please contact Patt Schwab for permission to reprint, and to see if there is a royalty required for reprint.   If permission is granted, we request a hard copy of the publication in which the article appears. We request you include Patt's bio at the end of the piece, along with contract information, and preferably, a photo. Photos are available from the Meeting Planners page.   For additional information, you may complete an information form or contact Patt Schwab directly at:
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